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Stepping up to the Mic. (Poetry Reading!)

Wow, its been a rough two weeks. It hasn’t been easy conceding to the fact that when I finally decided on a finishing date, that I wasn’t able to get everything in. Injuring my shoulder amongst other personal hurdles stopped me dead in my tracks for a moment. In some ways it was fitting. The emotions that over took me last week were unexpected, but they confirmed that I had given it my all and could move forward confident in that. My date may be past and gone, but my drive to finish hasn’t changed. I will complete this.

This Friday I take the mic in my hands in Toronto, Ontario and face my fear of sharing some of my personal views with a live audience. It’s a scary thing for me, to express myself in front of people, but I know it has the potential to be extremely freeing.

I think facing the right kind of fears is crucial for self development. In the right scenarios fear is a “not so subtle reminder” that what’s starring us in the face is worth fighting to see through. A big recital, the ball in your hands with 1 second left, a love letter waiting to be written, or barring your soul in front of a crowd; its all relative.
That feeling in the pit of your stomach telling you that you can’t measure up to the moment is actually the clearest indicator that you’re about to step into something extraordinary. It’s our emotional attachment to the things that mean the most that make us fear them so much. Giving in to the moment and freeing yourself from the fear is what propels us into greatness.
I think I’ve been able to write something worth sharing, so its scary to put it out there. Who knows what people will think. One thing I do know for sure is; I can’t wait for that feeling of just letting go.

For anyone in the area, I’ll be on stage, Fri March 18th between 4-7pm @ James Joyce Irish Pub in Toronto. 386 Bloor Street West. (Downtown). I would love to see whoever can find the time!

Random Thought #6

Fortune doesn’t favour the bold, it favours the disciplined.

If there is one thing I know to be true in this day in age, it is that there is a blue print that gaurantees success in almost anything. Human advancement has reached a point where most puzzles revolving around personal developmnt can be solved. Whether you want to jump higher, read faster, build muscle, or make a million dollars I believe it’s all within our grasp. Do you really think that every millionaire out there is smarter than you? Do you really believe that every person “in shape” has better genetics than you?

Skills in all walks of life aren’t always inherited; nowadays they are learned. The great thing about living in our day and age is that we have a wealth of information at our finger tips. With the internet, libraries, television and newspapers we are given multiple forms of data and often from credible sources. There has never been a time when the answers to our burning questions has been so readily available.

Its is our responsibilty however, to sort through this information and filter out the bull shit. Long gone are the days when word was our bond. Everything you read, hear and see, if it has merit has been backed up by solid evidence or proven without a shadow of a doubt. If it isn’t, it is up to us to question it. With a little research this shouldn’t be too hard.

Do you want to make money? Do you believe that there are people, books and articles that can really show you they way? Do you want a better body? Again, do you think there are people, books and articles that can show you the way? The answer is yes. In most cases what we want can be taught to us, or even self taught. Our problem as humans has never been a case of not having the right tools, but not having the discipline, or the determination to put them to use.

What’s more is that I don’t believe that obtaining these things; at least in theory should be difficult.

Sticking to the most common things we strive for, health and wealth I will attempt to explain this.

Good healthy living for most people is a struggle. Obtaining a six pack, toned legs or rock hard arms seems to be something that only the genetically blessed have been graced with. But ask yourself this, if this is what you strive for. What am I doing to achieve this? Have I put myself in a position to achieve any of these attributes? If we breakdown a healthy body into two categories, food and exercise the answers become remarkably simple. Eat right and exercise. Its not rocket science. Everyday we walk into the grocery store, or gym we have a choice. We can choose the healthy foods over the potato chips and we can choose to push ourselves over jogging for 30 mins while watching friends and talking to our gym buddies. You may say “Well there is more to getting fit than eating carrots and working hard at the gym; we all have different body types that require unique diets and routines.”. This is true and that’s precisely what books and qualified personal trainers are for. If you have ever watched the “Biggest Loser”, I think most people will agree that they’re not reinventing the wheel. The information that they’re giving these people can be found in countless books at your local Barnes and Noble. What they are giving them is the discipline and determination needed to stick to their goals.

When it comes to money I believe the same principles apply. Whether you make 10 bucks and hour, or 1,000 I believe that again, through discipline and determination you can turn your savings into a fortune. We’ve all heard of the wealthy barber and read headlines such as “Budget your way to early retirement”, but how many of us put these things into everyday practice? How many people stick to a budget religiously? When you’re tired and on your way home do you buy fast food, or stick to the cheaper option of eating at home. When shopping, do you go to the bargain rack, or do you buy the latest trend. When you’re socializing, do you invite people over, or go to the bars and spend countless dollars on drinks? These are all choices that slowly drain our hard earned cash and usually leave us scratching our heads wondering where all the money went. Most of my friends that complain about money have bar tabs that would make Norm Peterson blush. You don’t have to sacrifice the things you love in order to save money, you just have to change the way you think about those things. Throw a BYOB party, have “Fast food day”, buy timeless clothing and a new fancy top once a month. Minor adjustments can make a big difference.

My point is, is that making our goals part of our daily habits will undoubtedly put us in a position to succeed. The task at hand doesn’t have to be complex, but our minds need to be focused. Our struggle doesn’t come from overcoming insurmountable external odds. It comes within ourselves and our battle to stick to a plan; no matter how well laid out and simple it may be. We all knoa dumb millionaire, or a string bean turned fitness guru. Do you really think that they know some heavily guarded secret? Do you really think they are smarter or more physically gifted than you? I call bullshit.

YOU MUST READ THIS POST!!!!!!!!!

After failing to even really attempt a goal for the first time I had to do some thinking. The truth is after leaving the meditation center, I felt like a complete jackass. I know in my heart I didn’t have the strength to see it through, but the real problem was that I didn’t give it a fair shot. It’s less than 24hrs later and I can”t figure out if it was better to walk away, or fail miserably and run away in the middle of group meditation. I would have disrupted an ancient mantra, disgraced a holy temple and pissed a lot of people off, but at least I would have my dignity right?PFFFFFFFFFFFFT!!. The bottom line is both avenues would have led me to failure and that sucks. Failing to even attempt the goal however, puts me in a position I haven’t been in since the 4th week of my trip. I must now replace my “failed to attempt” goal with a new one. I have had a hell of a time trying to add new things to this list. I’ve made a few changes here and there out of necessity, but even then I had to dig down deep for suitable replacements. It wasn’t until I remembered something my cousin suggested (Thanks Jenna) that things fell into place perfectly. If I can’t add another goal to my list, why don’t I help someone else achieve a goal from theirs? So many people have helped me out over the years: Brook Thompson, Maame Barima, Wayne Dawson, Greg Knudsen, Nick Empey, Neil MacDonald, Anand Methda, Chris Bentler, Nadin Kara, Dave Robinson, Jeff Mornan, Ika ven der Vyver, Kanoa Hough, Tein, The Entire Kobra Family, Pawan Kumar…the list goes on and on and on. I cannot even begin to repay the generosity of these people, but I hope that they know how much they have meant to me over the years., or in the short time I have known them. The point is that I have been truly blessed with loving friends and an amazing family. They have all helped me at one point or another and while I have the means to do so, maybe I can help someone else achieve something meaningful to them. SOOOO what I would like from each and everyone of you is to email me, Facebook me, or leave a comment on my page with the NUMBER ONE goal you would like to achieve. It doesn’t even have to be yours, it can be on behalf of someone else you would like to help. It can be anything you or someone you care about desires and I will do everything in my power to see that it happens. One month from now I will randomly pick one out of a hat and make it my mission to help whoever it may be achieve there goal by the time my trip is up. I encourage you to think BIG. Well maybe not too big…I’m sorry, but I can not afford to put anyone on Virgins new ship to outer space, but I think you get the picture. Whether its a trip, physical challenge, meeting a long lost friend etc. just write me. Hell pass this along to you friends and have them write me. Just make sure its something meaningful and I promise you I will do everything in my power to make it happen. PS – I would love for EVERYONE to participate. Don’t be bashful. This won’t work very well if there are two names in the hat and they happen to be something like my Mom and my Aunt!